Facing the problem

Argument after argument after argument… It’s frustrating, it’s tiring, it’s depressing and all you want to do is escape.

Tempers are high, tension is rife, somebody is tired of always trying to make peace and somebody just wants to be right for once… Nobody seems to be able to calm down and think.

Think about what the real issue is. Why is it a problem that the phone rang, why is there an argument about the colour of the sky, why are you chastising him because he tried to help… why?

Nobody stops to think that maybe the one million little things are making a giant arrow which points to a much larger issue. Nine times out of ten, an argument about every little thing is an indication that there is something that needs to be discussed but both parties have been dancing around the issue.

Now, humour me for a moment and let us imagine that you are deadly afraid of dogs.

Its Friday evening you’ve had a pretty rough week and you just want to go home. You rush out of work early and as fate would have it there is a bus just ready to leave as soon as you get to the buS park. You start thinking of your weekend to come and you cant help but smile, some well needed rest and relaxation awaits you.

You smile sweetly as you disembark the bus and start walking towards your home. In 5 minutes the stressful week will officially be over and you can relax. All is right with the world… until you notice that there is a huge dog in the road up ahead. You walk this route everyday and you’ve never seen it before.

Fear kicks in and you freeze on the spot. What will you do?

You have three choices; you can turn back, you can remain as you are or you can continue and past the dog.

Choice number one and two doesn’t help you at all cause you don’t get to your desired destination. Choice number three is your only hope of getting home to that peaceful and relaxing place yet there are many things that will pass through your mind; will this dog attack you, can you outrun it if it comes down to that… all in all it is a risk you have to take.

Getting to that place of comfort will involve great risk.

That issue, that problem, that concern that you’re avoiding, it will only get worse if you don’t face it. And like that dog in the road its going nowhere until you do something about it.

Talk it through, find a solution… it might not be the solution you want it to be but it might be what is best for you in the long run.

Toodles,
Sherjei

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UWI does this…

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DURING MY GRADUATION AT UWI IN 2011

During my time at the University of the West Indies I accompanied a friend of mine to the Writer’s Club on campus. She’s an excellent poet so she was right at home from the beginning…me, not so much. It just wasn’t my scene so after a few weeks I never went back.

I’ve often been told that everything we come in contact with impacts on our lives whether we realize or not and I do believe that to be true. Sitting here this morning reflecting on my years at university I think back to my first day at the Writers Club. Prezzi (as the leader was affectionately called) led the group in a chain poem entitled “UWI does this…” I was both amazed and amused at different people’s perception of the institution and the various struggles one had to face while being there. Most people had something bad to say but there was this one guy who tried to interject ever so often to remind everyone of the good the UWI does.

I don’t recall what UWI had done to all those people but I’ll never forget what UWI did for me and to me.

Being the last of my parents’ 5 children and the first one to go to university, UWI for me was an honour. It was as much for me as it was for my parents. It was also my shot at a better life than they could’ve imagines possible… UWI was my door to the rest of the world…

UWI was a place where I met so many people from so many different backgrounds and learnt more about culture in a single classroom at Carimac than I had studying Caribbean history in high school…

UWI was the place where old friendships blossomed and some died while simultaneously new ones were formed and lifetime connections were made.

UWI was the place where I met my future husband, the man who charmed me then, held my hand through my struggles since and has believes in and motivates me to this day.

Oh and yes… UWI is the place that gave me a degree Bachelors of Arts Degree in Media and Communication with a specialization in television broadcasting from the Caribbean Institute of Media and Communication (Carimac)

Everyone has their own ideas of the noble institution that is UWI, but for me UWI will always hold a special place in my heart. UWI played a significant role in making me the woman that I am today.

Sincerely,
Shermaine Grant B.A. (Aspiring PMP)

Walk by faith and not by sight…

I was going through some old draft posts and decided I would share this one from 5 years ago rather than deleting it…

“The woman who left home without enough money to get back but came back with change in her purse… My mother.

I recently graduated from the University of the West Indies Mona and is now staring down over a million dollars of debt to be repaid over a 7 year period as my students’ loan has a ridiculous interest rate. Of course I knew this going into Uni but I went ahead and signed all the papers knowing that it was my only chance to get that first degree in short order. What i didn’t know then was that the thought of repaying $1.2 million would be so stressful. Mark you I have not started repaying just yet so for now its merely the thought that is causing my beautiful black hair to become lightly decorated with a colour I didn’t choose to add to it.

Now I do have a job (if you can call it that) but at the amount I will have to pay per month I wouldn’t have enough left to get back to work the next month so of course I start worrying. But my mother has insisted that I don’t stress myself with it as everything will be just fine.

I’ve never been able to understand the level of faith by which my mother lives as she has smiled in the face of one adversity after the other.

In my short lifetime I’ve cried, shied away from challenges and sold myself short because for some reason I believed that there’s no way I could make it through.

But I’ve come to realize over time that my mother is right.

I rushed into a job that pays me very little and has no benefits partly because I thought I may not get lucky in the short term and I couldn’t afford to not work as the bills have to be paid.

I’ve always said I only want half the heart my mother has because I honestly believe her kindness would be her demise. But as times passed I came to realize that it is the blessings that she has accumulated through said kindness that have allowed her to survive all she has been through.

I still think I’ll be lucky to have half the heart that my mother has but having a heart just like hers wouldn’t hurt either.

Here are a few bible verses that gives me comfort…

  • 2 Corinthians 5:7 – For we live by faith, not by sight.
  • Romans 8:24 – For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has?
  • 1 Corinthians 13:12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
  • 2 Corinthians 4:18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
  • Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.”

5 years later… I have cleared the student loan debt, her faith has not wavered and I am still praying to have a heart like hers.

Sincerely,
Shermaine

The Cure for World Hunger

If you came here to find the cure for world hunger then let me apologize now for having misled you as I have very recently learnt that I do not have the cure. I have however some advise for those who may be struggling on a weight loss journey as I am.

I have spent years, many many years, forcing myself to eat all the food on my plate because I was so concerned that I was wasting food while there were starving children in Africa (or downtown Kingston for that matter). But the more I think about this the more I realize that I have been absolutely crazy!!

How exactly is my over-indulgence going to assist anyone else? While I eat to the point of discomfort, these persons are still very much hungry and whether I chose to toss what I really should not force myself to chug down or to leave it for later these people will not even know.

There are several ways to assist those persons across the world who may indeed be dying of hunger but trust me when I say overeating is not one of them. All overeating does is

So I’m learning… learning that it is ok to not eat everything on the plate. My waistline may actually thank me for it.

On November 15, 2016 I started my weight loss journey again and today, 61 days later, I am trying to adjust my mindset as I have no progress to show for the two months that have passed. To be honest my workouts have not been frequent enough and my eating habits still need some work.

But this is a journey. A journey that does not promise to be easy but on I will take one day at a time as I kick one negative habit at a time.

Negative habit number one that must go is the feeling that I must eat everything I have on my plate… I must learn to manage my portions.

After all I’m not curing world hunger!

Toodles,
Shermaine

Positive Habits

Positive Habits

by Ralph Marston

Here’s your assignment for the day. Find a habit or long-held assumption that’s holding you back and replace it with a habit that empowers you.

Is there something you do just because it’s comfortable and familiar, that’s not beneficial, or is even harmful? Challenge yourself to think of a more positive replacement.

As you go through the activities of this day, ask yourself about each one. Is it adding richness to your life or is it wasting your precious time?

There is plenty of time available for you to do amazing things. With positive habits, you can train yourself to make the best use of each moment.

There’s no need to be judgmental or regretful about what you’ve been doing. Just pick one thing at a time that hasn’t been serving you, and insert a positive replacement.

Make the choice to program yourself for expanding success in everything you do. Give your life some fresh positive habits, and enjoy the great richness they bring.

Reblogged From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/motivate/170104.html

Hello 2017…

 

I am walking into 2017 knowing that whatever the year brings me will be as a result of a combination of choices, chances and changes.

Much of life is unpredictable but I have learnt that it is my choice of reaction to changes along the way that has ultimately brought me the successes (and failures) that I have had so far and for that I am choosing to focus on the positives for 2017!

I have dubbed 2017 my year of Awesome and while I expect numerous challenges along the way I am prepared to overcome and rise above all.

If i must be honest I am a little apprehensive about sharing my new year resolutions with the world but I believe that sharing them might help to keep me accountable so here goes…

For 2017 I resolve to;

  1. Focus on friendships… develop existing ones and mend those that have been neglected.
  2. Focus on family… (it may be about time I start to focus on my own)
  3.  Improve my health… (shifting focus from weight loss to holistic health improvement)
  4. Improve savings and build a real emergency fund
  5. Travel (in and out of Jamaica)

In essence for 2017 my plans are for improved health, wealth, friendships and adventures.

Cheers to my year of awesome!

Let’s do this…

Shermaine