Positive Habits

Positive Habits

by Ralph Marston

Here’s your assignment for the day. Find a habit or long-held assumption that’s holding you back and replace it with a habit that empowers you.

Is there something you do just because it’s comfortable and familiar, that’s not beneficial, or is even harmful? Challenge yourself to think of a more positive replacement.

As you go through the activities of this day, ask yourself about each one. Is it adding richness to your life or is it wasting your precious time?

There is plenty of time available for you to do amazing things. With positive habits, you can train yourself to make the best use of each moment.

There’s no need to be judgmental or regretful about what you’ve been doing. Just pick one thing at a time that hasn’t been serving you, and insert a positive replacement.

Make the choice to program yourself for expanding success in everything you do. Give your life some fresh positive habits, and enjoy the great richness they bring.

Reblogged From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/motivate/170104.html


Hello 2017…


I am walking into 2017 knowing that whatever the year brings me will be as a result of a combination of choices, chances and changes.

Much of life is unpredictable but I have learnt that it is my choice of reaction to changes along the way that has ultimately brought me the successes (and failures) that I have had so far and for that I am choosing to focus on the positives for 2017!

I have dubbed 2017 my year of Awesome and while I expect numerous challenges along the way I am prepared to overcome and rise above all.

If i must be honest I am a little apprehensive about sharing my new year resolutions with the world but I believe that sharing them might help to keep me accountable so here goes…

For 2017 I resolve to;

  1. Focus on friendships… develop existing ones and mend those that have been neglected.
  2. Focus on family… (it may be about time I start to focus on my own)
  3.  Improve my health… (shifting focus from weight loss to holistic health improvement)
  4. Improve savings and build a real emergency fund
  5. Travel (in and out of Jamaica)

In essence for 2017 my plans are for improved health, wealth, friendships and adventures.

Cheers to my year of awesome!

Let’s do this…


Sister Sister…You Inspire Me

Dear Sister,

Today you celebrate your 33rd birthday and as you thank God for another year and the gift of life, I thank God for YOU.

Yes You!

I know you don’t realize how inspiring you are but I urge you to pause for a second and appreciate all you have done, all you have become and all you have achieved.

I encourage you to look at your life through the eyes of your little sister who has had the privilege of watching you overcome every hurdle you have ever faced and then stand stronger for it. 

See through my eyes the admiration for a woman who has known the pain of various illnesses and has smiled (and sometimes cried) through the pain but never gave up. 

It is inspiring to watch you grow and blossom into an amazing Mother… to add to the compassionate daughter, sister, aunt and friend that you already were.

I am excited to see what God has in store for you over the next few years knowing that it will be nothing short of Awesome!

So Step into your 34th year of existence with pride and purpose knowing that you can achieve all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Happy Birthday!

With Love,


My 2016 Vacations…

Earlier this year I took what I consider my very first vacation. Having been a part of the “working world” for the past 5 years I have at times taken time off from work for a week or so at a time but it was not until this year that I finally understood what a vacation really meant.

Usually I take a week, stay home, clean the house, wash my hair and so forth… but this time had to be different. This time I had to make a memory and get to ticking items off the bucket list.

I took the first week of May off so I could celebrate the birthday while on Vacay and it was AMAZING! Partly because of what I did but more because of who I did it with.

Devaro and I stayed at Kaz Kreole Beach Lodge. This is a nice hotel that is not very expensive and I would definitely stay there again. They also have an awesome beach by the way!!

And for the memory making, bucket list checking activities we went to Cranbrook Rainforest Gardens and to Mystic Mountains for some quality time and adventure wrapped up into one :). I particularly enjoyed the bobsled (because he drove) and despite all the screaming while zip lining I will be doing it all again.

After the first vacation turned out to be such a success I was fortunate enough to get another week off in November and vacay it was again! This one was even more exciting than the last as I got to tick a few more things off the bucket list.

We stayed at the newly “upgraded” Deja Resort  in Montego Bay and then at Royal Decameron Club Caribbean in Runaway Bay. Both were great for a girl on a budget but I prefer Decameron… more food and liquor for my enjoyment. Again lots of quality time and Doctor’s Cave Beach and Green Grotto Caves ticked off the bucket list.

For my 2017 vacation I want to travel to another country… preferable one I have not yet visited.

Hint Hint Devaro… get ready!

~ Shermaine

You Are Exactly Where You Need To Be

We spend so much time each day trying to escape from where we are that we often miss the beauty of this life as it passes us by.

We get so caught up in what isn’t and what should’ve and could’ve been that we fail to see what IS.

It is natural for us to look back on our life and wonder how different it would have been if we had made a different decision in high school or college or at any random juncture, but these thoughts can sometimes do more harm than good.

The reality is there is no way to change the past (unless that time machine has been invented and someone is hiding it from us). So while we reminisce we must avoid getting caught up in the “if only’s” and focus instead on using all the lessons learnt from the past to assist in being more engaged in the present and ultimately chart the course we want for the future.

It is also natural for us to compare ourselves to others and wonder how they are “so far ahead” while we seem to be struggling by. Remember though that everyone has their own journey and no two lives are exactly the same.

Develop the habit of celebrating your own successes, regardless of how small you may think they are and be genuinely happy for the success of others and you will find that this is far more rewarding for you than the comparisons.

Today I challenge you as I am challenging myself, be present in THIS moment in your life! Appreciate the ability to dream about new adventures and experiences while knowing that today is just as miraculous as your dreams. Know within yourself that you can make a difference not just in your life but in the lives of those around you by choosing to focus on the positives that exists.

When you examine your life you may find that you may not have ended up where you wanted to go but trust that in this moment you are right where you need to be.

~ Shermaine

Sweet December…


December is traditionally a time of reflections and projections for me (and most of the rest of the world) and with the year I have had this one is no different. I’ve been taking the time to look back on some struggles that threatened to break me this year and how God came through for me over and over again.

In January I set some goals I wanted to achieve and I can honestly say that I didn’t do too bad with those at all. For the rest of the year I will be sharing some moments this year that were significant for me and how they have helped to shape the positive attitude with which I intend to enter 2017.

So as I prepare to close out this awesome and sometimes draining year I look back with gratitude and look forward with renewed hope.

I am ready for 2017 and all the blessings that are in store for me. I am ready for all the opportunities that await me and all the struggles that I will overcome.

So 2017… be prepared to be good to me. I’m ready!


Is it Still Day 1 If You’re Starting Over For The 100th Time?

After weeks of making excuses I finally got off my ass and went to the gym last night. I have been delaying this for a while as it marks Day 1 of my newest attempt to lose weight. I actually don’t know if I am allowed to refer to it as Day 1 as I have started this process at least 100 times in the past few years.

This is a scary process for me as every time I have tried and failed I end up 10 pounds heavier than I was before and slightly depressed, then I go through a phase of self loathing.

See… I have never lacked the will to start working out or to start eating right… Starting is easy for me! What I have always failed at is the discipline to see it through. I start, I get excited, I go hard and then two weeks later a miss a day and a day turns into a week and a week into a month and the rest, as they say, is history.

As I undertake this journey my long term goal is to be a healthier version of myself and also 40 lbs lighter version of myself. I have not set a timeline on when I would like to achieve this just yet but my current plan is to take it all one day at a time, one week at a time, one achievement at a time.

Last night I went to the gym for the first time in over two months. I had a good workout but I struggled with things that should’ve been easier for me. It was a bit disheartening but if I must be real I couldn’t have expected anything different.

So as I struggled through the basic exercises that Miss J gave me to do I kept thinking that I tomorrow I will be better, tomorrow I will do more, tomorrow I will definitely be better.

At the end of the session I asked for some advice on dietary changes that I will need to start making and here is Miss J’s advice.

Foods to avoid:

  1. Rice (easy for me as I don’t particularly like Rice)
  2. Flour (no more fried dumplings in the mornings)
  3. Patty (this one will be hard)
  4. Sugar (replace drinks with water, lessen the amount I use in tea)
  5. Alcohol (good thing I finished that bottle of wine last weekend :))

This time I want real results, this time I want to see this through. I would love your feedback, advice and encouragement along the way.

Here are my starting stats… Let’s see what these will be when I make an update on stats in two weeks!

Day 1… (for the 100th time) 

  • Weight: 182 lbs
  • Height: 5ft 5in
  • Bust: 44in
  • Waist: 37in
  • Hip: 45in
  • Emotion: Cautiously hopeful
  • Current Goal: Workout at least 4 days this week.

~ Shermaine

There Is Always A Reason To Smile… Be Grateful

It’s 5:47am when I bolt out of bed and run into the bathroom. I have exactly 13 minutes before Mr Brown will call to say he is on the way which in turn means it’s time for me to walk out and meet him at the crossing. I know that thirteen minutes does not seem like enough time for anyone to get ready but thankfully I’m a pro at this… thank’s to 5 years of boarding school.

I had not made a final decision on what to wear today and with little time to actually go through the closet I made a quick choice on a dress that has been staring at me for months begging to be worn… despite the expert advice of all my insecurities.

I was sure to put my smile on but my belt, the lotion, and the make up bag were quickly thrown into the handbag as by this time I was at 6:03am and the “leave out now call” had already come.

I got to work at 6:50am today, stopped at my desk,  then went to the restroom to “put on my face”. If you know me at all, you know that this is a very rare occurrence for me, not necessarily because I don’t like make up but because I don’t think it’s necessary for everyday use and well… I can’t really use it very well.

So after about 10 minutes could’ve been 20 or 30 but who’s counting in the restroom I emerged with an even bigger smile than before and more than a little pep in my step.

Smile honey… you are truly beautiful

Of course my insecurities being the experts that they are have been whispering the reminders of the love handles and the “big belly” that are showing which then led to the inclusion of a scarf in the outfit to distract from such flaws… but the smile remained the same :).

As I keep smiling today I am reminded of my recent decision to live a more positive life through gratitude and purpose. So today, once again, I am grateful…

I am grateful for life.

I am grateful for my family and friends.

I am grateful for new opportunities and new adventures.

I am grateful for perceived missed opportunities and the dangers from which I have been spared as a result of them.

And today in particular I am especially grateful for all the persons who will look at me with or without shock (depending on whether or not you know me) then tell me that I look Gorgeous, or Nice, or Beautiful, or Stunning or any variation of those words…

My self confidence thanks you all in advance!

With Love,

Shermaine Grant


Reblogged from greatday.com .. Because I cannot start my day without Ralph

Be the positive difference

by Ralph Marston

Hope shines brightest in hopeless situations. Optimism is the most powerful when there is no obvious reason for it.

If you’re not pleased with the way things are, that’s no excuse to be dejected. It is an opportunity to make a difference, to be the difference.

Your inner direction does not have to be dictated by the way things are. You can choose to be driven, motivated, inspired by your highest vision for life.

It’s all too easy to let go of your vision, to claim the world is pushing you down. What’s much better is finding a way to live that vision in every moment no matter the circumstance.

Sure, there are obstacles to overcome. The way to get past them is with a strong, non-negotiable, positive vision.

Let your highest and best vision drive you. And be the positive difference you know you can be.

© 2016 Ralph S. Marston, Jr.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/motivate/161007.html