Argument after argument after argument… It’s frustrating, it’s tiring, it’s depressing and all you want to do is escape.
Tempers are high, tension is rife, somebody is tired of always trying to make peace and somebody just wants to be right for once… Nobody seems to be able to calm down and think.
Think about what the real issue is. Why is it a problem that the phone rang, why is there an argument about the colour of the sky, why are you chastising him because he tried to help… why?
Nobody stops to think that maybe the one million little things are making a giant arrow which points to a much larger issue. Nine times out of ten, an argument about every little thing is an indication that there is something that needs to be discussed but both parties have been dancing around the issue.
Now, humour me for a moment and let us imagine that you are deadly afraid of dogs.
Its Friday evening you’ve had a pretty rough week and you just want to go home. You rush out of work early and as fate would have it there is a bus just ready to leave as soon as you get to the buS park. You start thinking of your weekend to come and you cant help but smile, some well needed rest and relaxation awaits you.
You smile sweetly as you disembark the bus and start walking towards your home. In 5 minutes the stressful week will officially be over and you can relax. All is right with the world… until you notice that there is a huge dog in the road up ahead. You walk this route everyday and you’ve never seen it before.
Fear kicks in and you freeze on the spot. What will you do?
You have three choices; you can turn back, you can remain as you are or you can continue and past the dog.
Choice number one and two doesn’t help you at all cause you don’t get to your desired destination. Choice number three is your only hope of getting home to that peaceful and relaxing place yet there are many things that will pass through your mind; will this dog attack you, can you outrun it if it comes down to that… all in all it is a risk you have to take.
Getting to that place of comfort will involve great risk.
That issue, that problem, that concern that you’re avoiding, it will only get worse if you don’t face it. And like that dog in the road its going nowhere until you do something about it.
Talk it through, find a solution… it might not be the solution you want it to be but it might be what is best for you in the long run.